Where to meet gay friends

I know several of the performers and enjoy a good drag show, so I have two choices: Go alone or sit at home alone. Once I got comfortable with my own company, I made several friends, who, in turn, introduce me to their friends. My circle of gay friends include guys as young as 24 and as well as men my age or older.

You got to put yourself out there. When we build a culture based upon pervasive and long-term promiscuity, this is where we end up. Healthy relationships of all kinds are starved and made rare. Your best bet is to go to avoid the remaining strongholds of that old dying culture and seek out venues, events and people untainted by its stain.

I like a lot of the suggestions here. Not everything works right away, in terms of making friends, but the activity itself is still fine. Sometimes a little intense for an introvert like me, but I had to remind myself: One quibble. Become an alcoholic and reelaaax!

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Going to a bar one day a week hardly makes someone an alcoholic! And yeah, a few of my long-time friends are guys who were ONE time hookups… but we got to talking. Nothing wrong with that. The Queerty comment about becoming an alcoholic bugged me, too. Good question. My suggestion is to say no if a sexual move is made by the other one, and if the friendship is there, it will survive the sexual rejection.

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You both have to be sexually repulsed by the other. Sex will never intrude upon the friendship. There are many excellent suggestions here. Many social groups are full of men who came to them simply to make some friends. BTW, it takes no time at all to make acquaintances, but it takes a good deal of time, and work, to develop a friendship. Yet, when I try to arrange platonic buddy activities, I get really pushy sex offers.

Men seem determined to frustrate me at every turn. I only have one legit gay friend and one lesbian friend. So really no gay friends. I have a lesbian sister, but she live 4 states away.

I had one true Gay friend who was like a blood brother to me, but he passed away suddenly and way too young. They all want to have sex. Then he responded to me one day. Sorry, dude. Most of my close gay friends are guys I have had sex with one time, and only once.

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And thereafter we became great friends without another word being spoken about having sex — except with other guys. I live right outside of NYC. I was seeing someone recently and he was very well connected with a strong group of friends. I found this incredibly intimidating since he constantly wanted to bring me around to them, whether they be his city friends, local friends, or college friends. Reading comments and advice has been great.

I want that strong group of people. Some of them it was a struggle, because they thought that all gay men wanted to be with them. Many of them felt that way because, most of the gay men they met had ulterior motives. I respect them and they respect me. Many of my straight friends tend to be over protective at times, but there is nothing sexual between us.

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It is easy to make friends as longs as the boundaries are clearly set. Please log in to add your comment Need an account? Search for: Get Queerty Daily Subscribe to Queerty for a daily dose of life advice dating stories and more. Renone Good suggestions! Renone Thanks. Obviously, going to a local gay-friendly church or spiritual center should be about your spiritual nourishment and well-being. Think about this first before you decide which venue for spirituality is best for you. The dream that one day, you will meet the guy of your dreams is a wonderful thing to dream about. But fantasizing and doing something to make it happen are two different things.

If you want to meet your next boyfriend, then you will have to take control of the process. The Promethean spark of love only happens if there are two available people who happen to be at the right place at the right time. Why not try something new? Tomorrow could be a great day! Sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account. Comments are not for promoting your articles or other sites.

I am very much interested to know you and hopefully become your friend.

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I have nothing much to say but i know how you feel. And i understand where you're coming from. I hope this simple message of mine will touch your loving heart. Its really hard and difficult to find people you want to share your heart and soul these days, but who knows.. I still believe that somewhere there.. God bless. Thanks CBJ.

It seems that the search for love knows no boundaries. I live in a small, conservative town, and no gay bars or clubs. So, I don't have to try to avoid them. I do enjoy visiting gay clubs when I travel to larger cities, and have met some nice people and remain friends with a couple I met in a club in Atlanta several years ago. I'm a 60 year old man, searching for a partner. As I have aged, I've come to understand that the man I hope to meet is not a supermodel but is emotionally available, mature and kind.

And, I remain optimistic that I'll meet him. In the meantime, I try to stay healthy, active and social. My friends and my family mean so much to my happiness, and I plan to invite my partner to that group. Many probably won't want to hear this, but this sagely advice is still true: You can't love someone until you can love yourself. A problem in the gay community is we often have high expectations with little room for flexibility. Curbing idealizations is key to finding sustainable partnerships. There's no doubt the conventionally hot, bearded, chiseled man is yummy, but these men represent a small subset of the gay community; prioritizing the Adonis who has his own problems and insecurities, too, mind you won't get you into a loving relationship.

The proclivity of gay men to value physical attractiveness over emotional intelligence and communication is short-sighted. Good looks WILL fade; the foundations you've built with someone who's been with you through your deepest lows is what makes a relationship. My advice is to work on yourself. Always work on yourself. Know what makes you happy and build relationships and communities based on those factors. A few of my key "rules":. Looking for love is hard—online and off. If you're older and looking for someone younger, know it's probably not going to be easy for you.

If you're a person of color who only wants to date white men, deal with your internalized racism I'm Asian and trust me, loving other men of color is incredibly empowering. If the beginning of your dating profile reads: Firstly, I want to know how many people actually sign up at community colleges to "meet" people.

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Not to mention Should I mention how many millennials are in debt for college loans. Have you been to the rural south? Sure I can volunteer at Walmart. Or volunteer at a local hospital But these are hardly two places I'd imagine meeting a compatible match. I've seen these advice tips given all over the internet and I'm convinced thise that are giving them live in either New York, LA or some other multimillion populous.

For guys like me, stuck in the south Or driving an hour to a gay bar since there aren't even any of those around.