It’s Time to Take Your Temperature on Topping and Bottoming

A top is a male who prefers penetrating and a versatile is typically a man who is open to either being a top or a bottom i. What about gay men who have never engaged in anal sex and never will, ever? I am tired of all the labeling.

Versatile Top in Gay Relationships and the Proliferation of Labeling

In straight male-female relationships, there are traditional generalizations one makes about sexual compatibility—although I am underscoring the word "generalizations. Especially in today's swipe right, swipe left app dating world, one needs to put some thought into it so they can be clear from the start. In other words, it has more to do with one's unique personality than the fact that they are straight, gay, dominant, or submissive in nature.

Next up, we have Theresa. She's 23, bisexual and wants to know how to craft a Tinder profile that'll appeal to the masses. I don't have a lot of experience dating anyone, much less dating girls. As a former bisexual myself, I used to struggle with selecting the perfect array of photos and crafting a witty bio that would make all genders want me bad. If you're looking to make a Tinder profile that works for any and all parties looking for love or for a quick hook-up , my answer to you is cheesy, but simple: Be yourself, girl.

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If you're not happy with how you're being represented, then you'll never end up happy with whomever you find. Some people are versatile. Some people just are not versatile, and no amount of shaming or head-scratching will change them. Nor should they have to change. Thanks for the read, SS team. LOVE this article!!

But then, this is an area of research science i am very familiar with. For those who actually care about science along with the studies on the Golden Ratio and how it affects our perceptive judgment as early as a new born, my suggestion is to study the chemical biology behind Sociology and Psychology before irrationally commenting. Such a disappointment. Is this really why you are willing to suffer the discrimination we all face, just so you end up as the clownish version of a straight pairing? What makes this study so unscientific is how they had little to no control over questions of grooming which can alter the perceived masculinity of a face drastically, from haircut, facial hair, plucked eyebrows, etc.

Thank you so very much for your response. When I finally tried it and loved it, I stupidly decided that I was a bottom. Unfortunately I fell into the trap of thinking that this was somehow my destiny.

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I realize now that, just as you suggest, this narrowminded view of my own self was the product of a more restrictive time and place that stopped me from realizing all of my possibilities. A side note: Although this receptive tendency is supposed to stretch across all aspects of both our sexual and our nonsexual lives, I never particularly liked giving head. But I also never had trouble finding tops who enjoyed going down on me. Now I am 51 and live in Latin America. For the first time I find myself attracting and being attracted to younger men who want me to be the top or active activo , at least part of the time.

Screw what the studies say and screw what I thought about myself for so many years. I am going to have really great sex in my new position. And finally be All that I can be. Sorry I am a bottom or preferably so when indulging in same sex so explain that. Covered in Tattoos, shaved head, work out, work on cars and Construction by trade…..

I gotta say I think stereotypes are for the birds. Hi Robert — I just read your comment on the original post and it was a real breath of fresh air. Gay stereotypes exist for a reason. Most feminine gay guys have gender identity disorder but were shamed from wearing womens clothes or doing feminine things as a kid.

Without the shame the rest of them will end up Male to Female trans. The rest of the gays had some sort of sexual abuse in early childhood. Todd K Autman. I think Id be considered a power bottom. Doc Hogan. Sweetie Fernandes.

Seriously, Science?

Mary Melendez. Juan Sebastian Bottazzini. Proves my point gays are absolutely devoid of substance. Josh Whitfield.