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The bonds I have formed in relationships have felt much deeper than those in relationships that form just because the parties want to bang each other. Even after finding out about asexuality, there is still the expectation that if you are in a relationship with someone who is not, then it is the asexual partner that should be compromising their sexuality. As if sex is a basic human need. For me, even the thought of having sex is horrific. Thankfully I found something better. He is a straight man but he values the real love over sex and would not push me to go further than I am comfortable.

We have been talking for almost two years now, but unfortunately, to be able to find someone I am madly in love with and who is perfect for me in so many ways — of course it had to be someone on the other side of the world. The best part is that my partner and I have excellent communication and understanding around sex, which reflects our relationship as a whole: You know you're not gonna end up with someone just for sex.

I think it can make for better bonds. But the biggest challenge is finding people who have any idea what you're talking about, or who accept it. The first year was really challenging. I had not admitted to myself that I was asexual when we first started dating, I thought that I just needed to be more enthusiastic. So we were having regular sex and I started to feel a paralyzing dread about maintaining this relationship. I felt guilty for 'tricking' him into a relationship that involved sex, even though that was not my intention at all.

Initially, he took my disinterest in sex to be the same as a disinterest in him. It took months and months of conversation for both of us to be truly comfortable with my identity. It took me almost a year to stop feeling afraid that he would wake up one day and feel resentful towards me 'trapping' him in a relationship without sex. The best part of dating and being asexual? There is so much more time for the important stuff! Like reading books while snuggling on the couch and going on adventures.

It's difficult for him to understand my feelings towards sex as I don't particularly seek it out but I realize it's an important part of a relationship for him and I have no problem with that. It hasn't had a large effect on the emotional side of my relationship, but it is relatively new.

The best part about it is that you get to fully appreciate any bit of time you get to spend with your partner no matter what you end up doing. You're just completely happy being with them. He's wonderful and respects me and my boundaries. A year into our relationship, I began to be sexually attracted to him and, of course, he was thrilled. In the past, I didn't date because every time I tried I was told I couldn't know because I hadn't done it or I was really just depressed or because I am also trans that I was only dysphoric.

My current partner was super wonderful about giving me the time I needed, and putting no pressure on me to have sex if I didn't want to. The ball was totally in my court. Finding a person who will accept you for being ace is the best part about dating. Otherwise, it's quite hard. Usually, as the relationship progresses they get a better idea of what it means and how it works in a long-term relationship. I think the best part of being ace is being in a long-term relationship.

Dating can be so awkward and the pressure to be sexual at the start is really uncomfortable. And you sorta have to since there's a very small number of active members. You never know what could happen. Hi there, found this topic on the web.

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Wanted to say I was on an asexual website appx ten years ago and it was empty and void. I am happy to see so many members here. Glad to have joined here today. Ive tried a site but no results so far. Hope others are having better luck. Im 61 male.

Ive worked as a youth worker for 27 years. Love my job. I like Yoga and Martial Arts. I really enjoyed riding my bike at farmers market today. So awesome. D but where i'm from they probably don't exist since asexuality isn't a very familiar concept here. I know this topic is over a year old but I just started using asexualitic.

I didn't pay for the full membership, just put my instagram info on there and wrote out my profile.

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We are both asexual although I am grey and he isn't , don't mind the bit of distance, and seem to be looking for the same sort of relationship based on close friendship. We both plan to meet up sometime soon so hopefully it keeps going well. Just asexuals that want to talk and mingle with other asexuals really. I put "queer ace" front and center on my profile.

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I decided to be very up front about who I am and what I'm here for. So far I had an eight month relationship with a girl I met on Acebook. I can speak for pretty good results on there. I was reading through this to see if other people have had success on ace dating websites. I really want to try but I'm scared it will be an empty void. I don't want to sign up and get bombarded by sexuals or trolls or spammers or.. I think a lot of different factors will play into whether or not one gets a response, or responses, to one's ad, i.

On ACEapp I've got only 6 people in my area and only 3 have relied to messages. Had some really nice chats but most end after a month and I don't hear from the guys ever again. With OkCupid I've personally had much more luck, I've had some really good conversation with non-aces who understand and accept I'm ace. I even had short term relationship with a guy who was cool with me being ace but he moved back to the states.

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Though I've only found 3 aces, only 2 I had anything in common with. I'm not the best at relationships, but the best result I had was through OKCupid. It basically let me filter out the gross messages and ensure that I was only interacting with people who had read my profile and knew what they were getting into.

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